Whenever I am sick like now, I really miss my mom and dad. I cried myself to sleep last night thinking about them. They would really care for me and make sure I am comfortable and given meds on time. I miss my mom cooking something special for me when I am sick… food for the sick I say. They won’t let me work but insist that I rest. Here I don’t have a sick leave or rest day. There is always work waiting for me.The Christmas tree hubby promised to pack up by himself is still waiting for him. Cleaning the bathroom he said he will do yesterday morning, he didn’t budge until he saw me cleaning it in the afternoon. I might not just think he will do it, but I just have to do it myself. Good thing though he sterilized the lil boy’s milk bottles last night!
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Filed Under (Life, Thoughts) by tere on 15-08-2010
Women especially mothers like me have to work hard because we cannot depend on our husbands for our needs and allowance. We are humans after all with needs and wants too. We have given up a lot of our freedom and simple pleasures in life to give way to the responsibilities of motherhood. If the husbands can only pay for the rent, and have no allocation for us stay at home moms in the monthly budget then we have to find ways to earn despite being stay at home moms. It hurts us when they don’t give us any rest day and even a small allowance. I hate having to cry and beg for it all the time and they don’t care if we are just overreacting and being so demanding. In the same way that nannies have a right to a PAID day off and paid their monthly salary, I think moms and wives deserved at least a rest day – our ME time to care for ourselves, to think for ourselves plus we deserve at least a small allowance that we need not beg from our husbands. Where did our giving, loving and caring boyfriends go when we married them?
If people think we are ranting then I guess they judge us as robots staying at home and not as humans too who also needs some space and rest and time for ourselves too! Husbands have no right to deprive that from their wives. We are not your slaves, we are wives and humans after all. We deserve care and love when we are sick, understanding when the hormones inside us are at war. We expect most the understanding and love from the man we married. But I think we lose them and they get lost in the process.
We also don’t deserve to be physically hurt and be pushed around. We have rights too. You just can’t own and get the money we worked hard for to save. Treat us with love and care just like before.
~ Ria, a stay at home mom, U.E.
Filed Under (Life, Personal) by tere on 04-08-2010
Lucky you if you have a husband…
… who loves you
… who listens to you with a heart
… who understands you when others can’t and won’t
… who provides well without the need to ask or worse beg
… who values you more than just another person in the house or the nanny
… who cares for you when you are sick and won’t say to you he gives more importance to his work
… who defends you when his family forsakes you and hurts you by not helping you when you ask for help at your lowest time
… who does not emotionally abuse, neglect and hurt you
… who does not physically push you around and your child
…who keeps their promises and initiates good works without having you to cry for it for years.
I am lucky and blessed that is all I can say!!! Thank you Lord for the strength, patience and courage!
I am lucky too to have a son who comforts me, pats my shoulder and makes me smile when I am crying to let go of pain, and gives me strength and hope to move on and live on, and the purest form of love.
I am lucky to have my own family who never abandoned nor forsaken me and who is there for me, my little boy and hubby at all times ~ not only in good times but most importantly in bad times when you need people who are called family!
Love, love, love!!!
I hope my man reads this… an email just forwarded to me and which I would just want to share. Bato-bato sa langit ang tamaan pikon so wag magalit!
At last a guy has taken the time to write this all down.
Finally, the guys’ side of the story (I must admit, it’s pretty good).
We always hear ‘the rules’ from the female side ..
Now here are the rules from the male side.
These are our rules!
Please note.. these are all numbered “1″ ON PURPOSE!
1. Men are NOT mind readers.
1. Learn to work the toilet seat.
You’re a big girl. If it’s up, put it down.
We need it up, you need it down.
You don’t hear us complaining about you leaving it down.
1. Sunday is for Sports!
It’s like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
1. Crying is blackmail.
1. Ask for what you want.
Let us be clear on this one:
Subtle hints do not work!
Strong hints do not work!
Obvious hints do not work!
Just say it!
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We are off to church even if I have a pounding headache that started this afternoon. I will be praying for me to get well later tonight so I can work fast and efficiently on my tasks so we can pay off bills and save you know. I don’t want to miss attending church based on the few experiences we had before. We really have to find time for the Lord who is a good provider. Have you all gone to church to pray and thank the Lord? We must find time! There is still time to go to church now. Come let’s go!
